CRS
Chandler, Arizona, United States

There's an old saying. If you don't want someone to join a crowd, you ask them, "If everyone were jumping off of a cliff, would you?" Well, I have. So my answer would be "Yes". True story.
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Why Can't Adults Ask Strangers To Be Friends?

Friday, December 09, 2011

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I went to Walgreens the other day and the girl that helped me was super friendly and dressed in exactly the way that tends to grab my attention. And it made me think, I wonder what she's like as a friend. I wish I could just ask her to hang out.

But you can't. And that seems kind of frustrating to me. For one thing, you can't just go up and ask a girl totally cold to spend one-on-one time with you. Of course guys do it all the time at bars or other social settings, but it's weird to just ask a girl for some face time when she's at work, especially when you aren't a regular and haven't worked up a rapport with her. But you know what? It does happen. I've had several female friends at work come up to me and say "Hey Chris, that guy over there just gave me his number. I've never seen him before in my life." But generally this is still in dating circumstances. If you're a girl and you're at work and some jerk comes up and asks if you want to go out sometime, he's asking if you want to fuck sometime in the future. He does not mean "Hey, want to get to know one another on a meaningful, yet purely platonic level? You seem like an interesting chat." And it bothers me that you can't do that. That you can't spend a few minutes at a cash register and say "You know what? This conversation was fun. Let's hang out some time. I have no plans to fuck you."

But think about it-- it's weird even to do with the same sex. How does a guy go up to another guy, in a non social situation, and just say, "Dude. Nice shirt. I too listen to the music bands that you are interested in. Let's hang out, maybe have a soda down at the soda restaurant." If you were to do that, you would either be rebuffed because the dude assumed you were gay, or else you would then have a new gay boyfriend.
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with love from CRS @ 10:58 AM 

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