The Spell of the Wedding...
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Michelle and I went to her cousin's wedding yesterday. I don't want to sound like a total asshole and come off like I had a terrible time, because I didn't. We missed the wedding itself because we ran late, but the place was beautiful and the bride and groom-- both extremely good looking people-- positively glowed with happiness, and although I don't think I'd met them before, I felt happy for them.
The wedding was enormous. And from casual chit-chat while waiting in line to go to the bathroom I'd found that they'd invited a guy that the groom played baseball with. Meaning out of all these people, there were people there that were just casual friends, which annoyed me. It was the kind of gigantic, expensive wedding that made me jealous that I didn't have one like it-- a completely ridiculous, unwarranted jealousy because I had almost the exact wedding I'd wanted and if this had been my wedding I would have been completely fucking miserable, crabby, and wanting to leave as soon as possible.
It reminded me of weddings as an event, something that brings unneccesary stress to everyone including the bride, groom, associated families, and people just attending, and I'm not sure anyone enjoys them 100%, yet people to have them as if they do... meaning, so few people seem willing to alleviate the aspects that frustrate everyone. Weddings put people under spells. For example, they might make you feel jealous when there's no reason. They make you want perfection in everything when this is a task that inevitably never quite pans out. I think what I'm saying is that I don't get weddings, or people's fascination with them despite the fact that nobody likes them as much as they pretend they do.
This doesn't mean any disrespect for the bride and groom. They seemed like happy, lucky, very much in love people, and I hope this was exactly the kind of wedding they wanted, because if it was, I thought it came out pretty well. And obviously, I wish them all the luck in the world. But I don't like the effect weddings have on people. Especially me.
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with love from CRS @ 6:07 PM
Sunday, October 30, 2005
Michelle and I went to her cousin's wedding yesterday. I don't want to sound like a total asshole and come off like I had a terrible time, because I didn't. We missed the wedding itself because we ran late, but the place was beautiful and the bride and groom-- both extremely good looking people-- positively glowed with happiness, and although I don't think I'd met them before, I felt happy for them.
The wedding was enormous. And from casual chit-chat while waiting in line to go to the bathroom I'd found that they'd invited a guy that the groom played baseball with. Meaning out of all these people, there were people there that were just casual friends, which annoyed me. It was the kind of gigantic, expensive wedding that made me jealous that I didn't have one like it-- a completely ridiculous, unwarranted jealousy because I had almost the exact wedding I'd wanted and if this had been my wedding I would have been completely fucking miserable, crabby, and wanting to leave as soon as possible.
It reminded me of weddings as an event, something that brings unneccesary stress to everyone including the bride, groom, associated families, and people just attending, and I'm not sure anyone enjoys them 100%, yet people to have them as if they do... meaning, so few people seem willing to alleviate the aspects that frustrate everyone. Weddings put people under spells. For example, they might make you feel jealous when there's no reason. They make you want perfection in everything when this is a task that inevitably never quite pans out. I think what I'm saying is that I don't get weddings, or people's fascination with them despite the fact that nobody likes them as much as they pretend they do.
This doesn't mean any disrespect for the bride and groom. They seemed like happy, lucky, very much in love people, and I hope this was exactly the kind of wedding they wanted, because if it was, I thought it came out pretty well. And obviously, I wish them all the luck in the world. But I don't like the effect weddings have on people. Especially me.
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